How The Lust Of Porn Deceives You With Fake Love

Some of us tend to find ourselves in tight spots that lead us into disappointing outcomes and we end up in activities we never really wanted to be involved in.

Life is a series of situations and scenarios that often tend to pressure us into one direction or another due to circumstances.

We are all trying to fill a void of emptiness we feel inside whether we realize it or not.

If we don’t have meaningful events and people in our life and interactions that make it clear to us we are important, we can be tricked into feelings of insignificance.

When this happens and our emotions tell us that we aren’t worth much in the world or loved by other people, we fall back on chasing empty pleasures that disappoint.

The next thing we know we are in a negative mindset and feeling like we need a pick-me-up to feel better, and that is when the situation and feelings bite us and we fall into the trap.

Having a hard life and being stressed out makes cheap destructive pleasures seem valid and worthwhile to us in desperate moments for relief from emotional and physical pain.

Lust tells us that we are wanted by someone and that means loved when we are deprived, or worse, we don’t care if we are loved if we can just get some easy pleasure somehow.

Lust is the kind of desire that uses a person because it wants something from them for a moment, and ditches them after they get what they want, like using a man or woman for their money and leaving after the bank account dries up.

There is no love in lust, as it is using others for a tool, but it serves the purpose of feeding people’s fantasy that they are loved enough to get them by in a moment that the day.

Pornography and adulterous sexual flings give physical sensations in the body that also trick us by releasing the “love hormone” oxytocin.

Oxytocin is a nasty little drug that is natural to our bodies, but when sexual release occurs it lies to us and tells us that we are “very loved.”

This is a design by God to build a strong relationship in a marriage, but works against us in desperate situations when we are deprived of real genuine love to lock us into addictive behaviors through fake love and lust.

Our self worth and how we perceive ourselves determines how strong our desire for attention, approval, compliments, to be liked in the opinions of others.

All of these things are the desert we are in where the water of love is not found, and we are seeing a mirage in the dusty distance being parched and thirsty for a drink as none of these things are love at all.

Addictive behaviors are created by a misguided attempt to fulfill one’s need for genuine selfless love.

Every person in the world is searching for this kind of love that is lasting, transformative, secure and trustworthy.

We are all searching for the kind of love that will never die, and that never gives up on us, and makes every day brighter.

1 Corinthians 13 paints a picture of this love we seek, that truly accepts us for who we are, that pushes us to be better everyday for our good, that appreciates us and helps us in spite of our mistakes and flaws.

When we don’t have this all encompassing, heart consuming love we find ourselves chasing lustful ideas that are nonsense, and we buy into illusions of perfect proportions or part sizes.

When we aren’t loved for who we are, we chase the idea of being perfect or having body types or parts that will induce lust in others to get attention and make us feel loved even though we know the love is fake love, aka lust.

Everything Has Children... This means that when you are negative, insecure, stressed, afraid of missing out, depressed, overwhelmed, and deprived of positive experiences, it will “bear children” of desperation, meaning you will have desires for cheap destructive pleasures that you would not otherwise have.

Being aware of these things can change our lives and give us the power to fight back against the harmful mechanism’s that ruin our life with addictions and poor habits.

Rat Park was a set of studies done by Bruce K. Alexander that essentially showed that giving rats a “rat park” made them lose their desire for drugs.

The “rat park” served as a little paradise for them with all their needs and social desires and they essentially chose to give up cocaine and morphine.

Even after having been addicted to these drugs, the rats then placed in “rat park” would choose the non-drugged water and would overcome the withdrawal symptoms and cravings addicts must combat.

The rats had a full life with a rat family, good food and “felt” very loved, so much so that they did not want the cheap destructive substitute offered them of pleasureful drugs.

While we are not rats, the analogy absolutely applies and we fall into this same trap ourselves, but God has a way out for us!

In John 4:14 Lord Jesus says, “...but whoever drinks of the water that I shall give him will never thirst.”

The water of life He is referring to is the love of God that will fill every need for attention and approval we have and make your cup overflowing with so much love you will have plenty to spare and give to others.

When we become able to know for certainty through the proof God has given us the overpowering love He has for us, opinions of anyone else pale in comparison and nothing can bring us down.

In knowing His love for us, we can feel his love for us, by soaking ourselves in the Word of God called the Bible where He tells us and shows us we matter so much He would die in our place just to save one of us!

If we seek this love and search for this love and find this love, then our freedom becomes a reality and we are fulfilled and satisfied so much that addictions begin to fall away and we defeat them through God’s love and approval. (Jeremiah 29:13)

Awareness of all these things can set you up for total victory through God’s love against the phony “fake love” addiction that pornography provides, or also sexual encounters outside of marriage.

Being aware that our negative emotions set the trap, we can fight that by accepting God’s grace, avoiding beating ourselves up about it, and letting God’s approval without our performance win our heart.

Hiding behind the tree is what Adam and Eve did in Genesis 3:10, but we don’t have to hide, as our clothes now remind us of then, and God isn’t mad... He wants to love us out of the mess we are in.

Being able to trust God’s love will never change, gives us full support to give up destructive relationships with lustful fantasies that are unloving to all of our brothers and sisters in the world, and will give us new eyes to see them as priceless family members deserving of love and devotion in marriages.

While our life circumstances can often create a negative atmosphere, we can lean on God’s love to lift us above every dark and stressful thing into a place where His love overpowers depressing situations and eliminates desires for destructive pleasures and “fake love.”

It takes work to build a relationship with God, and to find God’s love for us in His Word for ourselves, but it is well worth it and time tested by millions of people free in Jesus’ name through His love. (Acts 4:12)

Investing our time into finding God’s love is where freedom from all evil tricks and traps is found, and reaching the point of knowing for a fact... that God Himself in the flesh loves us (quite literally) to death, will break every chain of addiction.